Archive for January, 2013

January 22, 2013

Failure Never Looked So Good…

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January 15, 2013

10 Quotes to Get You Through Tough Times

10 Quotes to Get You Through Tough Times

10 Quotes to Get You Through Tough Times

“Don’t you ever have a bad day?” It’s a question I receive a lot from readers of this blog, audience members at my speaking events, and those who know me well. The answer is, “Of course I do.” That answer always leaves people in disbelief of my jovial, upbeat, and optimistic personality. The truth is I’m not that happy. I’m just a regular ole’ joe like everyone else out there. I have my bad days – those days, when nothing is going my way and I just don’t want to get out of bed happen to me all the time. The difference between myself and others is that I do everything I can to surround myself by things that will get me out of that funk. And that just happens to be thoughtful, inspiring and motivational quotes. Why? Because there’s one for every occasion. Got bad news and feeling down? There’s a quote for that. Upset about the way your future is looking? There’s a quote for that. Lost the will to go on? There’s an quote for that. You name it and I’m pretty sure there’s a quote out there to help remedy it.

To save you from hours of scouring Pinterest for the right quote that fits your mood, I’ve taken it upon myself to list ten quotes to help you get through tough times. (Cause lord knows, there are plenty of them!) I can’t take all the credit though. I was actually inspired to do this post after reading a similar one by Oprah. Regardless, feel free to revisit this post each time you need a few choice words for a slight pick me up. I have a good feeling it will surely help you through whatever you are dealing with.

For those days you feel inadequate: 

You are enough. You have enough. You do enough.

Since you are only human, I am sure there are those days when you feel like you just fall short. You feel as though nothing you do is every good enough and that you will never amount to enough. Remember, that all you have to offer holds more value than you realize. 

For when you’re at a crossroads:

You don’t need to have it all figured out to move forward.

So you are lost. You have too many decisions to make and no idea how to go about it. Simply put you are confused and feel like an empty vessel. You may never have all the answers. Luckily, you don’t need to have all the answers to go on with your life. 

For those who are sick of the naysayers:

At first they’ll ask you why you are doing it. Then they’ll ask you how you did it.

Let the people call you stupid and crazy. Unfortunately, it’s part of the territory when you go against the crowd and do something out of your ordinary. Ignore them. When it all works out, they will be the same ones amazed and suddenly willing to copy your every move. 

For when you think you can’t take anymore:

Your body can go on forever. It’s your mind that’s telling you to stop.

I get it. You’re tired. You want to give up. You’r ready to throw in the towel. Just don’t do it yet. You are stronger than you know. 

For when things don’t go as planned:

“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that’s waiting for us.”

It worked out perfectly in your mind but suddenly it all started to fall apart. Now you have no idea what to do. Have no fear. Sometimes, you just have to accept that what’s in store for you is much better than anything you could have ever planned or imagined. 

For when you wonder, “Why me?”:

You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.

When bad things keep happening one after another you often start wondering, “Why me?” What did you deserve to be dealt such a terrible hand? Well, it’s about time you start asking, “Why not me?” Have faith that you are well equipped to handle it. 

For when you feel like a loser:

You can’t fail if you don’t quit.

You’ve gotten rejection after rejection. Don’t sweat. Just remember they could have ignored you. Every “no” is the beginning of a new relationship. Don’t give up and be relentless. You’re closer than you think. 

For when you’re feeling impatient:

Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.

Sure it will take a while. And yes, you’ve got things to do, people to see, and bills to pay. Yes, you’ve go engagements to handle now and dreams take a while to accomplish. The time will fly by. Keep going after it. 

For for when you’re feeling “unpretty”: 

You are beautiful. Don’t change a thing.

You may have a blemish here or there, but who doesn’t?  The mirror doesn’t lie. You have the ability to light up a room. 

For when you are disappointed about falling short of your goal:

You can only be better than you were yesterday.

Regardless of how your story unfolds you are always capable of becoming a better person. You can and you will. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself.

What helps keep you going? Do they help you remain positive?

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January 8, 2013

How to Stay Motivated: Don’t Get Glad. Get Mad

Don't Get Glad. Get Mad.

Don’t Get Glad. Get Mad.

I know this blog typically talks about getting success and being happy so the advice I’m about to give you will probably be a bit shocking. But I ask that you bare with me….

Getting to success usually takes a lot of hard work, determination and motivation. Now if you are like most people, you usually feel the most inspired and motivated to make a change after something negative happens. For example, you feel motivated to work out more after you realize you can no longer fit in to those size 10 pants. You feel motivated to ask for a raise after your boss decides to  add another duty to your already heavy workload. Or you feel motivated to get your finances in order when you get that last phone call from Sallie Mae about your student loans. In each scenario, the motivation was triggered by one thing. Anger or some other unpleasant feeling. You hated how it felt realizing that you put on weight, or in major debt, or not making what you are worth so much that you vowed to do something about it. So you buckle down for a few weeks and do everything in your power to make sure you never experience that again.

But then you start to feel content with your life. That’s when you begin falling off the wagon. You stop getting up for the morning workout. You stop entering purchases in to your spending journal and you stop drafting a way to better position yourself for that raise. You’ve lost that angry feeling, become content with your life choices, and basically settled. Most importantly, you lost your motivation. Of course, you’re gonna stop taking steps to make that change. You have become complacent with your life.

Don’t feel bad. You are not alone. It’s a trap that many people find themselves in way too often. Even I am guilty of it every now and then.  Luckily, there is a simple way to fix this and regain that motivation. (This is where the shocking advice comes in.) Allow yourself to get mad. Yes, you read that right. Stop getting content and allow yourself to stay mad. Once you lose all the unpleasantries and bad feelings associated  with a certain life aspect, you no longer feel the need to change it. Why would you? If you are content with it, you don’t have  a reason to fix it. I challenge you to regain that motivation to get back on track.

So how do you do that? Allow yourself to relive the moment that first motivated you to change. No, I don’t want you to harp on the past, But give yourself that constant reminder on why you are altering your lifestyle or habit in the first place. Every so often, revisit the day you realized you could not fit into size 10 jeans as you stood alone in the dressing room feeling defeated. Or save that  unappreciative voicemail from your boss and replay it every time you need a kick in your pants to keep striving for your goals. Do whatever you can to keep that fire within you burning. Once the fire goes out, motivation and all hope is lost. Luckily, it can always be reignited. Get mad again and I guarantee that passion and motivation will make it’s way back to you in no time.

Whatever you do, ignore the Gladware slogan. Instead, Don’t get Glad. Get Mad.

What do you usually do to stay motivated? Has revisiting anger helped in rekindling motivation?

TERRIfic Quip: If you blame lack of motivation as your reason for not taking action – you’ll be stuck forever. (Courtesy of Miss Donna)