Archive for June, 2012

June 26, 2012

The Most Epic Wedding Save-the-Date Ever!!!!

Ok, well maybe it’s not epic. But it is pretty TERRIfic. That’s because it’s the save-the-date for my upcoming wedding so obviously I’m a little biased. I am ecstatic to say that my fiance and I have finalized our wedding in the Bahamas on April 22, 2013. Once, we got the details together obviously the next thing we had to do was alert all of our family and friends.

Now, sending and creating save -the-dates can be pretty costly. There’s the cost of photographers if you  are taking photos, whatever item you chose to put it on, envelopes, and stamps. Depending on the service you choose, announcement method you consider, and the amount of guests, things can add up very,very quickly. Consider, I am a MAJOR frugalista, spending loads of money on a wedding is just not an option. I refuse to go into debt because of a wedding. But I still wanted something fun, and different. We are beginning to think it was impossible considering our budgeting concerns.

And then I had a lightbulb moment. We should put our own talent to use by creating the save-the-date! Now, I’m pretty lucky in the talent department. I’m a dedicated writer, singer and dancer and my fiance is a very talented cameraman, producer, film maker and editor! It only made sense that we utilize our own skills. Well somewhere along the way, we downsized. We went from hosting a wedding spectacular public announcement filled with show stopping acts to a heartfelt journey through our relationship that just might make you tear up. I had a wedding to plan! I had no time to direct a full-out musical production. So instead, I designated the save-the-date job to my fiance. After all, guys never have much to do when it comes to wedding stuff. Here’s what we came up with:

Cute right? I think it’s totally worthy of being on some wedding magazine website like The Knot or Wedding Channel. Considering my last name is Huggins and his last name is Hart, we thought it would be nice to play on the “affectionate” names. Hence, the save-the-date title, Terms of Endearment Unite. I thought it was pretty clever…

What did you do for your wedding? Have you seen any other cute and unique ideas for Save-the-Dates and wedding invitations? 

TERRIfic Quip:  Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.

June 19, 2012

Learn to Bite Your Tongue

Have you ever found yourself in one of those peculiar situations where you just can’t help but say the wrong thing? Whether it be traveling abroad, attending a wedding, or enjoying a business lunch sometimes you just can’t help but find yourself with your foot in your mouth creating the most awkward and uncomfortable situations. While it may seem like common sense, some phrases and questions really are difficult to decipher. Sometimes it’s because the person just isn’t thinking. Other times the person just might be curious. Regardless of the reason, there’s no denying that people just don’t know how to act! It becomes even more obvious when you are the recipient of the unwelcome comments and tasteless questions.

Luckily, there is now help. After finding myself on the receiving end of way too many comments in poor taste (and been the one to unknowingly deliver them), I’ve decided to start an ebook series designed to help people avoid them. The series will include books describing what not to say in several scenarios such as weddings, at parties, when traveling, during lunch dates etc. Not only will the book provide practical advice on how to keep your foot out of your mouth, it will have you nodding in agreement, blushing with embarrassment and reflecting on past experiences as you see yourself in the scenarios. Check out the first installment here.

Oddly, enough I’ve found myself one too many times on both sides of the scenario. I will never forget the day I was shopping in the maternity section for a friend’s gift and chatted up a friendly woman in the store. We discussed pregnancy, how much it costs to have children, things to buy etc. We giggled and sighed as we shared a mutual hate for baby expenses. And as she analyzed some more maternity clothes I made the biggest mistake anyone could make by letting some dreaded words leave my lips.  “How far along are you?” Seems like an innocent enough question. Only problem is she wasn’t pregnant. I immediately got upset with myself for ruining what could have been a great friendship that started in the maternity section and turning it into the moment this kind woman suddenly second-guessed her appearance,  convinced herself to go into hiding and committing to a “no – anything that tastes good” diet. (Of course, I’m speculating but knowing that things really could have ran through her mind kills me.)

What makes it worse is knowing that anything you say from that point on could never make it better no matter how much you grovel or apologize. I will now forever be remembered as “the woman in the store that called me fat by assuming I was pregnant.” Needless to say, I’ve never made the mistake of uttering those words again. But could you blame me? We were in the maternity department and she was measuring maternity clothes against herself!

And then there were times that I was on the receiving end of thoughtless comments. Like the day someone mindlessly asked me why I have a boy name during a social event. Or the other time, someone told me I was too young to get married. And how could I forget the time someone asked if I had a job because I collect coupons and shop at thrift stores. Or the time, an acquaintance asked if my fiance is white. And the time….. Well, you get the picture. The point is we have stupid things said to us all the time, but we rarely acknowledge the times that we can be just as stupid. It’s about time that ends…

When have you made a thoughtless comment to someone that did more harm than good? In what situations do you find yourself on the receiving end of comments in poor taste?

TERRIfic Quip: Be your own advocate. No one can do it as well as you.

June 14, 2012

The Most Powerful Word of All

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Hello. 

So simple but it holds so much more power than we know. You utter it in passing of your boss in the hallway. You sing it when answering the phone. You even repeat it when meeting your best friend’s boyfriend for the first time. But when the phrase becomes second nature, you are oblivious to the pull it truly holds.

“Hello” is probably the most powerful word someone can say in their lifetime. Repeating it may be the simple act of kindness people hear that make them realize their importance in the world. They’ll know they’re actually cared about. Think about it. It may be for the first thing a person hears in the morning that turns their day around.  Saying “hello” to someone can change a person’s life because you may have been the first or only person to have spoken to him/her that day. Suddenly, the person no longer feels like a useless spec in this huge universe, but a living, human being with a purpose.  It’s an acknowledgement of existence  – something everybody needs every once in a while. It could be the very last thing a person hears before they die or the soothing sound that makes them keep going at work. “Hello” could be the very word that makes someone change their mind about doing something detrimental such as hurting themselves or committing suicide. Or it can inspire them do something life changing like committing to a job offer or finally putting themselves first. A “hello” at the right time can make a world of difference if said to the right person at the right time.

It’s a power that “hi” just doesn’t hold. How could it? “Hi” is in passing and a lackluster gesture. Hello is a conscience and inviting effort to illustrate that someone’s existence does matter. It’s your moment to prove that you see eye to eye. My guess is if everyone made a conscience effort to say “Hello” rather than an effortless “hi”, the world will never be the same. It will only get better.

Suddenly, the famous movie quote, “You had me at hello” holds a whole new meaning. Thank you, Jerry Maguire.

Do you make a conscience effort to say “hello” instead of “hi”? Has “hello” ever turned your day around?

TERRIfic Quip: Happiness is a choice.

June 6, 2012

One of the Most Under Appreciated Careers of All…

This just in: Journalists get no respect.

When you think of under appreciated professionals I bet a few of them come to mind. They’re probably the same ones that come to most modern Americans’ mind. Each and every one of you probably drum up fond memories of teachers, nurses, military professionals and even social workers. However, the profession I’m referring to is the one that seems to get bashed on nearly a daily basis. One might argue that it may be the most under appreciated profession for that fact alone. They receive little to no gratitude. They work long hours, are faced with heartbreaking situations regularly, accomplish impossible tasks, have almost no holidays, expose injustices and change the world. They’re the media professionals known as journalists.

The job description asks for a lot. A lot that many aren’t willing to do. There’s also a lot depending on what they do. Think about it. Teachers may depend on those newspapers and books composed by writers to teach their next class. Business professionals depend on the updated Yahoo news story  written by a journalist to determine how the real estate industry can effect their next big business decision. Parents look towards their stories to learn about the state of education so they know whether or not to vote in favor of passing the school budget increase. Senior citizens need them to read about how to best plan their retirement funds and deal with health issues. Teenagers and young adults turn to their magazines to get advice on resume techniques or to simply brighten their day with fashion tips or heartwarming story. It’s one of the few professions that can stir up emotions from anger, inspiration, curiosity, empowerment, frustration, betrayal, content and enlightenment all with one breathe.

Writers’ words hold a lot of power and really can change the world. Yet, they are constantly criticized, swiped at, and accused of blowing things out proportion. It’s a lot of responsibility and heat to take for such little pay. The average writer/journalist/reporter salary rings in around $30,000. With a masters degree under their belt, that salary only goes up to about $45,000 to $50,000. There is no such thing as overtime or holidays because the news doesn’t stop.

They also aren’t  honored on any holidays because many don’t respect them or recognize all they do. And the ones that are honored on holidays are few and far between because they are so easily forgotten. When was the last time you thought about journalists who risked their lives to keep the public updated on wars and terror on Memorial day? Or what about that writer who was able to make you realize you weren’t alone as she captured the exact thoughts you had the moment you found out you were diagnosed with cancer? Have you thanked her?

Journalists don’t get discounts to stores, receive special perks or have a week dedicated to their greatness like some other honorable professions do. It takes a special person to put in such hard work with almost no acknowledgement. It’s about time journalist/writers/reporters were added to the ranks of honorable careers noted for their ability to make moves and change the world.

Do you think journalists are under appreciated? What other careers do you think receive little appreciation or respect?

TERRIfic Quip: Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself.